So around 2 weeks ago, my partner and I finally got married after 13 years, you might think, hang on you are a celebrant why didn’t you get married sooner?
Look, I love to marry other people, it is the best thing to do, to be involved in the one day that is filled with so much love and joy, I guess my cup was full and also, we kind of wanted to wait until our children were a little bit bigger and could also remember and enjoy the day.
The one thing I realised is that everything I had been saying to my couples over the years about your big day was right!!! Phew!!!
So here are a few of my tips.
- trust your gut
- do it your way
- get the best team for you!!!!
- Reflection of you in an environment that you feel MOST comfortable.
- If you choose a theme, choose something that will make your guests feel comfortable, ours was “express yourself” we wanted our guests to feel their most sexy and comfortable
Read on if you dare, this was our day…
- Find the right partner. Check, kidding.
Our lgbtqi wedding was a ripper and we did all of it our way, we get to write our own stories now.
We are relaxed organised people we did it our way and because of that the day went off without a hitch… oh there were a couple of hiccups; 2 days before the ceremony our celebrant rang us and she had covid, the videographers had covid and our MC got covid, so besides this, it went off without a hitch!!! Hehe
- Find the right venue: Destination wedding was our desire. We looked at a mountain venue, and then thought what are we doing we love the beach, it’s where we are most relaxed. The first property we looked at was the one we went with; it had all the elements for our destination wedding. A pool, it was near the beach we could set it up the way we wanted, and we absolutely loved it.
Most of my family were coming from Tasmania, yes, the apple isle, so I had to showcase something fabulous to them, as you know Tassie is beautiful, this way we all got together the night before the wedding, people could meet each other and this way everyone was much more relaxed on the day of the wedding.
- Find the right suppliers: trust your gut on this, we chatted to a few local people and the ones we connected with, they just understood us and our brief, which was basically good food and good alcohol, not a tricky right?!, but it’s not as simple as that, you want them to bring the ‘vibe’ you need and want on your day. We went with these guys and loved them all, they heard us, could see that we were not your mainstream run of the mill people, they listened and heard us.
The guests were talking about the food for weeks.
We had some foodies at our wedding so wanted them to salivate!!!
- Find the right celebrant, ok this is a no brainer… the ceremony will start the vibe of the day, it is literally the party starter. So many couples focus on the party and forget the ceremony is the heart of the day. Get this right and your day will fall into place.. we of course went with our dear friend, and fellow celebrant
Marney, who is fabulous, I was her celebrant too.
I believe in supporting my friends, even if we are secretly competition, but I knew Marney would be superb, sadly, 2 days before our wedding she got covid, but we managed to pull in another friend, who was actually a guest and YES a celebrant, Cecily Hardy, she’s in the grams and she was amazing, everyone loved her… and she wore a purple velour jumpsuit and cowboy boots, what is not to love with that!!!!
- Find the right photographer: we went with our dear friend and uber professional guy Phat Ngo photography, he just ‘got us’ we didn’t want walking off into the distance photos looking whimsically at the ground or that kind of thing (if this is your vibe that is so cool, just not ours) we wanted more documentary style photos and some family snaps, bloody kids wouldn’t stand still, he knew how to get them in a shot without getting them in a shot if you know what I mean.
- Find the right music: ok so as a performer I love me some live singing… we just happen to have a friend, who is a rock star, go see her at any opportunity, her name is Christa Hughes, my god she has some pipes!!!! This was the moment for me, her voice, song and outfit, had me all gooey in all the right ways!
Music for reception: well well well, this team, were, outstanding, what’s not to love about a live trumpet player!!! And Muma Megs as your singer, she is a goddess on the mic and got everyone on the dance floor, even my 85 year old father!!!
- Find the right co-ordinator: As a celebrant I love working with a wedding co-ordinator as they will keep your day running smoothly from start to nearly finish, leaving you to get made up and just focus on looking fabulous!!! We went with a local company, they knew the venue and other suppliers.
Also they sent Elle on the day as the co-ordinator and she was exactly our vibe, relaxed, helpful, organised and I never ever heard her say ‘no’ too, she was positive and ran it so smoothly, we loved her.
- Find the right person to make you look amazing: look don’t be jealous, but my partners best mate can make frocks so yeah it was a no- brainer, Robbie Geammal is his name and he made us look and feel like goddesses, I mean look at us!!!
Make-up we pulled in our friend and amazing make up artist Emma Jane Redmond. I don’t like to wear a lot of make up on my skin, I’m Tasmanian, its flawless, she listened and got the brief and nailed it.
- Find the right décor person: we love flowers, but hate waste so we didn’t have a bouquet, or that kind of thing but we got another best mate to do the flowers, décor for the venue, Tim Ball, he was incredible. We all helped and sang like Santa’s helpers!
- Find the right videographers: Yes, it’s an extra expense, but it’s just something we wanted. I have had so many couples say to me that they regret not recording their big day… you know you only do this once, with each other, and we didn’t want to miss a thing
- Cake? Nah, not for us, we just had desserts, yummy yummy deserts.
Ok that should do, so now I am a wedding organising professional and whizz bang excellent celebrant, got any questions then hit me up.
Venue: Seacliffe House